Issues with “The Secret”

Issues with “The Secret”

And dumpster babies

After reading The Secret (and watching the video), I must admit that I really like the idea of being in charge of what happens to my family and me like this. I really do. And many of the tools they recommend—particularly practicing daily gratitude—really resonate with me, too. I often try to list all of the things I am grateful for when I get the chance. And I can think of a bunch of things in my life that I could have attracted by thinking about them, too—from my baby to my husband, my job as an editor years ago to the house I live in.

But I can also think of plenty of things that I don’t think I could have attracted—such as a tornado that ravaged our community when I was a child, or the time I was molested before I even knew what sex was. There’s my own prematurity, of course, to the fact that doctors believed I would be retarded as a child. How could I have attracted these things to myself?

These are the problems that I have with “The Secret.” I’ve been believing myself to be healthy for over a month now, yet my sickness has gotten worse. I’ve been believing my family into monetary wealth for a year or more, yet we continue to slip into poverty. Though these could be explained away with my own lack of verve in believing, thoughts of doubt, and other excuses, what about the following?

Genocide. I don’t think anyone would have thought about their entire race being raped and murdered and enslaved into armies, yet this happens around the world. The same goes for human trafficking. I refuse to believe that the natives of our country believed in settlers coming to murder and eradicate their entire people; how could they have even known they existed? This reminds me of my friends who claim that native people also went to hell before the Europeans came because they didn’t know Jesus, even though there was no one to tell them about Christianity in the first place!

Dead babies. Do dumpster babies attract the dumpsters they are thrown in and die in? If so, that’s rather odd, don’t you think? What about the babies that are born to mothers or fathers who shake them, abuse them, beat them until they are mentally handicapped or even kill them? Were they attracting these parents even as they exited the womb?

I could think of plenty of other instances that make me question the logic behind “The Secret,” but suffice to say that while I think we can definitely attract things to our lives (whether we want to or not), it doesn’t just boil down to our own gravitational pulls and the energy of the universe. Some of us also simply have rotten luck. Some of us have really crappy health, no matter how positive we think. How many children have died of cancer who believed they would heal?

Those who push this law upon us steadfastly, without anything else, remind me of those who push religion on us, without anything else. “The Universe will provide!” just takes the place of “Jesus will provide!” when you ask people what to do when you’re, say, losing your home or your health. I’d also like to know if people who follow “The Secret” so ardently do nothing else in their lives but believe in it, much as many have told me to simply “pray” on it. So while it’s nice to believe in this law—and while it may have some merit—I do take umbrage, if even a small amount, when people force it onto you as the end-all, be-all solution in life.